The Cocktail Lounge

[alphanguy74]

AMS, it's time to get off the pot. If you weren't at work, I'd almost just suggest you grab his ass and see what happens, but maybe your hand can brush his, and then you can give him a meaningful gaze while that occurs. I've had friends that told me that if you become "friends" and don't get into the hot and heavy fairly quick, then it will always just be a friendship. I think that's crap, myself. You can grow into feelings, you can grow OUT of them. My best friend I was in love with for a LONG timne when I was in my 20's has now started smoking, has dubious hygiene habits, lost all his hair, gained a ton of weight (looks 7 months pregnant, and I'm NOT exaggerating) and can't hold a job. So that ship has SAILED. He's also a slob, and calls me neurotic for washing my bed sheets once a week.

[Soapsuds]

[All My Shadows]

I had to google Paige, and I'm not surprised with what I found! Yeah, it's pretty skanky around here.

Speaking as someone who works in retail, it's awkward as dafuq when a customer is clearly trying to jump your bones and is taking you away from other customers to stare you up and down. We have this one woman with a crooked wig who comes in weekly, always smelling like cabbage, and she eyefucks me every. single. time.

I can't just GRAB his ass! It's weird. When a bunch of us are working in cramped quarters, I have no problems accidentally bumping into my female co-workers. We're all very close and touchy feely, so it's nothing to randomly pinch one's side. That's just our work environment. I can NOT touch Scott in any way, though. I literally go out of my way NOT to touch him, because I just feel like it would be awkward as all hell. Every now and then, we do graze each other lightly, and it's just...idk. He touched my ass by accident once and giggled about it.

I know know know that it's way past time for me to make a move. I'm just wishy-washy with whether or not I think it would be worth it. When we're at work being dorky and obsessing over old movies and TV shows and talking about fate and destiny and love and all those mushy things, I'm like...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ZbW8PeKaMQ

but then he talks about his wild nights in New Orleans and the random boys he's met, and I'm like...

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#conundrum

[Soapsuds]

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[All My Shadows]

I feel like we need to put thought bubbles over everyone in this picture.

Green-jacket girl: "OMG, they just pushed me! Can't they see I have large tits?"

Girl in the center: "Ermahgerd! Ter-fer-a-derler perjermer jerns!"

[SFK]

LMAO AMS!

And I didn't even know Paige Turner was a real person! I just knew that name as a euphemism as in "this book is a real page turner".

[Mr. Vixen]

Same!

[Mr. Vixen]

Here's a little contribution for you.

So, about two years ago I met someone, let's call her Jenna. We were casual friends for a while, and last year started to be more friendly. Well, several months ago I started to see a change in her. She had become colder, ruder, bitchier, etc. So that started to effect our friendship. There was a point where I found her to be outright miserable. I, at the time, had a very close friend who also disliked her. We were casually commenting on what a bitch she had become, when ANOTHER mutual "friend" overheard and went running to her telling her everything that I'd said.

So, this bitch and I get into it a few times. We basically just acknowledge that we don't like each other anymore, and I flat out tell her she's a bitch now.

Fast forward to another event we were all attending. A friend of mine, who has not gotten along with Jenna in quite some time, was also in attendance. This "friend" is someone who I have also had problems with, but we've more or less been friends for a few years. We get to this event, and I'm seated with another friend not too far from Jenna and the circle she runs in. Well, this other friend (let's call her "Rebecca"), arrived late and ended up having to sit with Jenna and her "crew" because there were no other seats.

Now, when Rebecca sits down, Jenna throws a FIT. I'm talking a verbal, out loud, fit. Now, Jenna had good reason to dislike Rebecca, as Rebecca had done some rather shifty things towards her. However, Jenna was extremely inappropriate. It wasn't her event, and it was detracting from why everyone was there.

So Jenna throws this fit, and is just being ridiculous. She's ranting and raving. Ultimately, she winds up kicking Rebecca, and the friend Rebecca brought, out of the table, by encouraging EVERYONE at the table to ask Rebecca to leave. Rebecca and her friend left, but only after Jenna had cause this whole scene, bringing attention to the table from EVERYONE around.

Well, I had been observing this from nearby and just lost it. I had been having these problems with Jenna, as I said, and it all just built up. The things she had done to me, combined with the way she was treating Rebecca, were just too much. So I got up and walked over to her and we just went at it. Not physically, but verbally. And I'm talking full on, Real Housewives style fighting. It was very inappropriate of me, as it was not the time or the place, but I just lost it and we just went AT it. I think it culminated with me telling her to "Run back to her pimp" or something along those lines.

Well, as time goes on Jenna and I just completed avoided each other. But one night I get a call from Jenna. She apologizes for all that she's said and done towards me. I apologized for the things I did as well. We have a long talk, and agree to start anew. Well, as several months pass by, we start to become closer and are now better friends than we ever were before.

But, as a consequence, Rebecca is not speaking to me over it. But that's not justified. I DEFENDED Rebecca, but only because Jenna publicly humiliated her. Jenna has every right to hate Rebecca for the things that she did. Rebecca and I were never that close, and even in the past, after Jenna stopped speaking to Rebecca, Jenna and I stayed friends before all the drama happened, but yet Rebecca was not bothered by it then. But now that Jenna and I have become friends again, Rebecca is angry over it...It makes no sense to me, as Rebecca and I were never that close to begin with, and it confuses me even more because when Jenna ORIGINALLY started to hate Rebecca, Jenna and I were still friends, but Rebecca didn't care....

[JackPeyton]

I am not one for complaining usually, but i am going for it.

This has been the absolute worst 6 months of my life. In fact the last 6 months has been the only down part of my life, honestly. I have had bad things happen, but the events that recently happened all top it and collectively i am just.. exhausted. So, my grandma got rapidly progressing Alzheimers in id say may. Now i bought my parents house and had a falling out with my brother over it and taking care of grandma last june. so he moved out and i took care of her on my own from june-dec and a great friend, chris, moved in in jan to help me until aug. My parents came home in july to help, and chris moved out. I moved into our in law suite my grams lived in and she moved into the main house with my parents then she just shut down totally in late aug, like catatonic satus. and she died two weeks later. it basically ruined me and living in her house with all her stuff didnt help. i actually gained like 60 pounds in 4 months from dealing with it, so i decided to get back in shape and that landed me in the hospital in oct with rhabdomyalisis for 10 days or so right into my birthday and then I was off work for all of oct and being out of work with a mortgage? the worst. the absolute worst. i did get state disability, but it was like $700 and im use to making like 12-1400 a month, so it didnt really help with anything, lucky for me my parents did and we just lived off cheap food for the month because i also lost the $900 i got for taking care of my grandma. so then, my friend chris that moved in to help? her sister died suddenly and trying to get her through that while i still was reeling from grandma was so hard. she did so much for me that i was just there, i had to be. and to see her so devastated was so hard. then my bestfriend had a non invasive surgery but given what has gone on, i was on edge. this was followed by the death of a childhood friend and my dad needing surgery. bad enough, how could get it worse right? one of my best friends died saturday morning.

[Mr. Vixen]

So sorry for all you're going through, William. I will keep you and your loved ones in my thoughts and prayers.

[AdelaideCate007]

Okay, so I need some advice.

First off, let me say that I don't really date much. There's not really a reason why I don't, I just don't. My work colleagues try to set me constantly and I go but they're always pretty ehhh. My sister says its because I'm "homely", "don't try hard enough", and "cold". I feel like its just that I never find anyone I get on with really well (and it's honestly not like I have high standards).

Anyway, I've now been asked out by a 19 year old who works in the same building as me (but not in the same department so that's not an issue). I'm 25 (about to be 26 in December). We've been talking for a while, we get on very well, and he knows how old I am and doesn't seem to care. I'm not bothered by his age (none of my parents ever seemed to be in age appropriate relationships so stuff like that doesn't really matter to me) but I think other people might have an issue with it and say things (especially since he's so young- if he was 20 something and I was 30 something I don't think it would be such a big deal). The other thing is that he is still in university and lives at home with his parents, and I'm worried that might cause issues. Should I just go for it despite what people might say or not?

[All My Shadows]

Bae, this isn't complaining! You've had a lot to deal with in the last few months, and you shouldn't be ashamed of anything you're feeling. Life will kick your ass sometimes, and you'll cry and want out, but it's best to let everything you feel out so that the healing can begin. Cheesy, cliche, whatever, but it's true.

[Mr. Vixen]

You go get that man, honey.

[alphanguy74]

I agree with soapboy, go for it! It's only a 5 year age difference, no big deal. Some say that alot of maturing goes on between 19 and 25, and that is true. But that doesn't mean he ain't worth going out with.

[AdelaideCate007]

This is going to be long and I'm sorry in advance for the length.....

Back in October, I got an email from my stepmother telling me and my siblings that our father had cancer (not even six months after my stepmother- siblings' bio mother- died from cancer). She was very vague on the details and said she would get in touch again when she knew more. My sister then talked to our father a few weeks ago and she got the same blunt response from him. Now, today, she calls (at 11 PM our time) and tells me that he has stage IV liver cancer and that he is basically terminal, and that she wants all of us to come to London ASAP to visit him. I haven't told my siblings yet just because I have no idea what to say. First off, this means we'll all become orphans basically within the span of a year. Second, there's a lot of issues with my father (more below), and third, I really just don't know what or how to say it.

Back story- Both of my parents were married and had kids before they got together and had me. Then my mother was in an accident and died. My father decides how we should grieve for my mother is by removing all of her stuff and pictures and never talking about her again. He then up and marries my stepmother aka my mother's best friend and they had three children (this includes the drama queen sister that causes so much stress). This was an extremely dysfunctional relationship which included various episodes such as stepmother putting all of my dad's stuff in a boat and untying it so it goes off into the harbour, throwing phones at each other's heads, and my stepmother locking my father out on hotel balcony for almost an entire day (yes he slept out there). Lots of drama and moves back and forth to Australia later, they get divorced and my father skips out and moves to Egypt and, for all intents and purposes, abandons his kids behind in Australia. Stepmother is constantly in a bad mood but even though I didn't realise it at the time, was doing the best she could. After this abandonment, we pretty much never see my father except once or twice a year (if that). He married this other woman (current stepmother) who has some kids and they have one and he just gets a whole new replacement family or whatever.

When my stepmother had cancer and was dying, we hardly ever heard from him. He called and talked to her twice on the phone, and then talked to us maybe three times. He didn't come to see us until he showed up (with uninvited stepmother and their stray kids) at the funeral and caused a scene. He took us to dinner and then went back the next day to London. If there were health issues then, he didn't tell us.

So now I guess we're all suppose to fly over there very soon to see him most likely for the last time. I know my brother and sisters aren't going to react well and I know they're not going to want to go. I'm so upset by this for so many reasons. It feels like everyone dies on me (my mother, my half brother from my mother's first marriage, my stepmother, and now my father). Plus, I have no idea what I would say to him. I have several things I'd love to say to him and to let him know how I've felt about things and incidents that have happened, but it doesn't seem like it would be appropriate to say at a time like this. I'm afraid I'd get there and it'd be a disaster and I know I can't trust my sister not to have an absolute meltdown

It's just so frustrating because- besides my sister's incessant need to be a drama queen and a brat- we'd just started doing a lot better. My brother, my two sisters, our younger half sister, her father and her stepmother (who are great and really make an effort to include us in family activities and have basically welcomed the four of us and taken us on as their children too even through they didn't have to) have really sort of started becoming a nice family unit....and then this happens. I know it's not my father's fault but is so d**n upsetting.

I just don't know what to say, or think, or really even do at this point, and any advice or words of wisdom (or just anything really) would be helpful.