Falling For Straight Guys

[Toadstool]

What is your profession?

[Queen_Nubia]

Word!

[JERSoapsFan]

Toadstool, I'm a journalist.

Perhaps I take my ethics too far but I know that breaking the law in any way can hurt my credibility. And when you daily see people cited for public drunkenness, indecent exposure and other playful indiscretions, perhaps you can understand why following the letter and spirit of the law isn't such a bad idea.

[Toadstool]

Certainly. I was only asking because you mentioned your profession as a reason and I was curious as to what your profession was. I am a nurse/counsellor so I've seen a lot. Pissing on trees is pretty standard behavior from fratboys, or just any males. I'd be concerned if it meant an arrest and how that arrest affected the defendant. Yes, I spend a lot of time in court but rarely over people peeing.

[BingCherry]

Well, since everyone's sharing their straight boy confessions, I thought I'd share mine.

It was around October and I had just moved into my dorm room and my roommate was Mike, this really hot rocker guy; tall, smart, handsome, kinda long hair, hot bod (not that muscular, but meaty and toned), sweet personality, straight as hell. We hit it off almost immediately, especially when I had to take some time off from school to take care of my ill mom (she's better now, but she had to have her leg amputated). He even visited me a few times there. Then, around New Years, I came back and gave Mike a hug. Then, all of a sudden, we started making out and within minutes we were [!@#$%^&*] like rabbits. And to make matters even more shaky, he was my first time (yep, first). The morning after, Mike wrapped me in his arms and whispered in my ear, "I love you." Well, of course that lasted all of about ten milliseconds. He then told me that he was very straight, but that he wanted to pursue a friends with benefits relationship. As a chubby, geeky, short gay man I've never felt so used in my life, so I moved out and I hoped never to see him again. Then all of a sudden, I get an email from him saying that he wanted me back and that he was sorry for everything. I don't know what to do; I care of him and am still attracted to him, but I just can't forgive him. Advice?

[Sweet_VeeVee24]

I hope I'm not intruding, since I'm a straight gal.....BingCherry, has Mike talked to you about how he feels? Meaning does he admit that he's gay or does he tell you that he's just curious? The only reason why I'm asking is because I would hate for you to make up with him and he continues to expect you to be friends with benefits...that sounds a bit selfish to me, JMHO...Simply because he's not truly admitting to you that he wants to truly be with you and have a relationship with you; he may just be wanting you back for sex only; and that's not right....From what you said, you truly have feelings for him; however, he may not be totally honest with you about his feelings.....Do you understand what I'm saying?

I would think about it a bit...it would be terrible if he wants to be with you for the wrong reasons.

[BingCherry]

Yes. I talked to him on the phone a few weeks ago and he told me that he wanted to be in a real relationship with me and that he truly loved me. I then asked Mike about the whole 'friends with benefits' thing. Mike then told me that he was in a relationship with a woman at the time and that he didn't want to leave her. But they've broken up, but I'm just not sure.

[bellcurve]

LOL. I'm pretty sure that if he replied back by feeling me up against a tree, touching me, etc. that he doesn't feel like he was sexually harassed. I guess we won't be strolling through the park late at night, huh JSF? LOL.

You'd be surprised by what passes "as a joke." I joke with my girlfriends all the time about having sex with them, but the mere thought is deplorable. But then again, EVERYONE knows that I'm gay. LOL. It ain't a big secret.

[JERSoapsFan]

Actually, Toadstool, I should clarify. You probably wouldn't be arrested for peeing on the tree. My comment had more to do with grabbing someone else's genitals, on a whim, which is technically sexual harassment.

I'm just surprised by all these stories where straight guys just drop trou with you guys and then 'get it on.' It just seems so shocking and not at all typical of real life. Wow.

I should say no, you and I won't be found in the park together.

I just brought the point up because there's no way of knowing that someone would be pleasured or disgusted by such an impulsive action. And it really is daring because it's sexual harassment.

I get the joking around about having sex thing. That's pretty routine and I do it all the time. What I've never heard of, on the other hand, is a so-called "straight" man flashing his penis in the face of another man - presumably wagging it around, perhaps even flicking it up and down; who knows, maybe even sticking out his tongue and snaking it in and out; and perhaps flashing a suggestive look towards you... - and have that be a joke. That just boggles my mind.

[bellcurve]

Then in that case, be a gentleman, apologize profusely, and go home with both hands attached to you.

[JERSoapsFan]

Or (unfortunate), grab the prize, get beaten up and be sent to a hospital. See what I mean? I'm not trying to put a damper on the party, I just wish to be realistic. In general, that's a really daring move.

[bellcurve]

Wow...I just read your story(is this like a support group or what?!).

Anyway, if the sex was good, it would be hard to let him go. But if a guy played me like that, I'm not sure if I'd be so nice in even contemplating the second chance. Or even friendship.

You'll know the right thing to do. Just be honest with yourself and when you look at him, make sure you're seeing things 20/20 instead of using the butterflies in your chest.

A lot easier said than done, I know. Sheesh, all you have to do is read my story and know I SUCK at taking my own advice.

And avoid having sex with him if he makes you feel like crap about it later.

And furthermore, don't let your weight, what you think is your social ineptitude, or other things you view as shortcomings get in the way of you making good grades and enjoying your college experience.

It took about a year for me to get the ball rolling on my life, but once I did, it was fantastic. Make sure you talk to lots of people on campus. That is the BEST way to get a social network going. It works with some, not with others. And don't feel like you have to justify yourself, your sexuality, or who you are to anyone. You are you for a reason.

Your backbone gets alot stronger when you get older, kid. You'll know what you can take, what you can't, and you'll be able to walk in a room and tell anyone what you think. Just be yourself and remain confident.

OK, so now that the Dr. Phil demons have been exorcised....

Jesus Christ! I've known the guy for a whole year JSF! It's not like a randomly picked him up at a bar. AND, if you'd read the story, he was grabbing my ass on the dance floor at a straight club. Sheesh! I felt, at the time, it wasn't a bad thing. Especially considering everything else that happened earlier in the night.

[JERSoapsFan]

Well, I didn't mean to offend. I'm just so busy these days and I try to read every post all the way through but sometimes I don't. Clearly, this was one of those times. Had he not made that move I would have thought grabbing the crotch was risky. Now it doesn't seem so bold for a move. Although I must say, I'm still floored by the whole shaking the penis in the face thing as a joke. And just how far does that go? Do straight guys take it a step further and give spritzers? This is shocking me.

[SteveFrame]

Well I have hesistated about sharing my story but I am going to go ahead. I have shared so much of my life, why not this.

As most of you know I am officially a bisexual man now, but what some of you don't know is that my time with a man a few months back was not actually my first time with a man - but it is my first time with a man in since I was 19 years old - almost 22 years ago now.

When I was 15 years old, I was dating my best friends sister who was 16 at the time. She was my first sexual encounter with a woman. I lost my virginity to her that year. I thought everything was hunky dory in my life even though I did find myself watching their older brother (he was 19 at the time) alot. I had done that for several years after my hormones started kicking in. I had seen him naked several times, since he and his brother shared a room and I stayed at their house a lot.

Anyway as I said I found myself watching him and I would think about him, but I just never thought of ever exploring that. Me and the sister were very happy together and sex was very good with her.

Their brother also fascinated me because he was the envy of every girl's eye at school and in the neighborhood, and I knew he was sleeping with many of them. He already had one child from a girl he knocked and would not marry. Well things changed one day when I went to my best friends house to see if he wanted to go play tennis. No one was home but the older brother who was naked looking at porn and doing what guys do when they look at porn. To make a long story short, we ended up having sex that day and he made me his bottom boy. It was his first time with a guy too and believe me after some other later encounters with guys, I can honestly say that it was. It was nice, but you could definitely tell he didn't know the difference between a guy's bottom and girl's vagina.

Anyway even though I was having sex with both the sister and the brother, I feel hard for the brother for some reason. I gave up the sister and the sex with her and only had sex with the brother anytime he wanted it. Of course I never got any of his other time. If I ever suggested we see a movie just as friends or anything that was out of the question. I was just a sex piece for him. I did that for 2 years until I turned 17 and he was 21. In the meantime he got another girl pregnant, did not marry her. Then at 21, he got a girl pregnant who was underage, and the dad made him marry her to go to jail for statuatory rape.

Of course I was heartbroken that it seemed like our "relationship" was over. I actually thought we had one. Well he would even call after he got married (esp during the last months of her pregnancy). I did in the meantime have a couple of other one time encounters with a couple of other guys - one who did want to pursue something but I was too hung up on him. I also dated some other girls and had sex with them. I enjoyed it with both even then.

Well finally at 18, I learned my lesson about this straight guy. He was still calling when he wanted sex. Even after all this time that is all it was too was just sex. There was no foreplay and definitely no kissing. He was married and they had 2 kids by this time. Yes she got pregnant right after the other one. Making it his 4th child. Well lo and behold the wife and I were both surprised when we found out he had gotten another girl pregnant too. This guy couldn't be faithful if his life depended on it. I finally woke up for some reason and realized there was no future in this. I left for college out of town and I can't say I immediately forgot about him, but I eventually did.

On the first day of college I met the woman I was to marry. That was when I was 18. I dated a few other girls at first - no guys at college at all. Then my future wife and I dated exclusively and started an exclusive sexual relationship together. I only strayed once and that was my last time with a guy or girl until many years later. That was when I was 19 and it was with my college roommate. He was a str8 guy too and he and I got drunk one night. And sort of like the other story that has been told. The next morning after it, he got up and left and he and I never even spoke again about it. He got married (eloped) the next week and is still married to her today.

Anyway I got married right after college was out that year. She and I had 3 kids together, but after 18 years (when I was 38) we just couldn't make it any longer. We departed as friends and still are to this day. She never knew anything about my past with guys and still doesn't to this day. I never once cheated on her during our married life. And even the first year we were apart I didn't. I thought we might get back together.

I thought about my bi past, but until a few months ago never acted on it.

So anyway I can relate to the straight guy thing. I fell hard for a str8 guy or whatever you want to call him. He always said I was his only guy, but with him who knows if even that is true.

Str8 guys sure can be heartbreakers though.

[JERSoapsFan]

So many interesting stories! Still, after all these "straight" guy sex stories, I'm beginning to wonder whether a nationwide study should be taken as it seems that these same-sex encounters are happening a lot! Is it just on SON or are a lot of people just having sex, sexual orientations be damned?