The Cocktail Lounge

[Soapsuds]

Hadnt been at this thread for a long time...interesting read about her....you need to runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn away from her...lol...she looks so innocent in the pic but sounds completely nuts.....lol

[Soapsuds]

Went out on a date yesterday...what a disaster.....the guy was cute....we met up for lunch...well as we chatted I knew right away this guy wasnt for me....then as we chatted he kept laughing at everything I said...I can be funny if i want to but I am no comedian...then he proceeded in saying how good looking I was over and over and over....finally he kept talking about what a loser his ex boyfriend was but that he was living with him.....and finally he came to see me on his bike because he has no car...later dude...lol....

[Chris B]

LOL that sounds like a fabulous date! I never date at work, but there is this guy I'm interested in right now and he's actually gay. I'm working my magic lol.

[Soapsuds]

LOL...good luck!!

[Nate4]

Managing my depression and anxiety is so hard. Bad day with it for the first time in a while

[Soapsuds]

Hang in there Nate...depression and anxiety can be rough.

[Nate4]

Thank you

[Soapsuds]

I actually have a good friend going through it too. I love em a lot and he knows it. He tells me stuff he can't even tell his boyfriend.

[AlexElizabeth]

Have you ever considered meds, if you're not already on them? I've been on Prozac since I was like 15. Works wonders for me.

[Nate4]

I've taken Zoloft for three years now, but it has just seemed to stop working.

I feel like I can't talk to anyone about my depression. I try to talk to my mother, but it puts her in a horrible mood, although later she comes and talks to me. But I feel guilty for making her upset. You should of seen her when I told her I was suidical.. She was hella pissed. I can't talk to my best friend about it either. Every time I bring it up, he thinks I am fine because I fake it well. I've also heard him saying mental health is just a mind game and can be controlled by strength. I love him like a bro and I can talk to him about everything but not that.

Ugh. Think I got friend zoned by my girlfriend tonight. Thank god I only have 3 more days of school. I need a [!@#$%^&*] drink.

[AlexElizabeth]

Omg... are you me? Do we have the same mom?

I was diagnosed with PTSD and clinical depression when I was 14 and was eventually forced into seeing a psychologist on a weekly basis. I hated her. But anyway, at some point months and months after I started seeing her, it came out that I was having suicidal thoughts (not like I ever planned on actually doing it because hell no, it's just something that would pop into my mind), and she made me tell my mom (or maybe she told her, I don't even remember) because I could be a danger to myself and my mom was livid. The whole ride home (45 minutes) she was just bitching at me about how dare I think about something like that and how she was so mad that I would think about that. Like thanks mom, that really helps. My mom was also a big fan of constantly telling me to just get over it and think happy thoughts. Because that's totally how it works. I eventually stopped seeing that psychologist because I couldn't stand her and never felt the need to see another one. The whole talking about my feelings thing just wasn't for me.

With me, everything just got better with time. I know the "it gets better" stuff sounds so cliche and lame but in my case it was true. I'll be 23 this month and am now a completely mentally stable and contributing member of society, lol. The PTSD/depression will always be a part of me but it's mostly a nonfactor in my life at this point. Hopefully the same for you eventually.

Feel free to send me a PM if you ever want to vent about any of this, boo.

[Soapsuds]

You guys hang in there. You all can PM me as well if needed. As a matter fact I am talking to my friend and he is having a better night. I told him that I loved him...he knows its friend love and real love...lol....I know he has a bf but Ive known him longer than his bf who he cant tell his most deepest secrets.

[Soapsuds]

Ok...I'll name my guys Jeff, Skip and Randy a la Blanche....lol

Jeff is the first guy I met and have known the longest. Jeff has dark blonde hair and tall. We share the same birthday...right there we hit it off...more on him later

Skip I met next and he said he was totally straight but now i have my doubts....he is tall with black hair....

Randy I met last...he is the shortest guy of the three and even shorter than me with a hairy chest...yummm..only one of the three with chest hair....lol

More later....lol..

[Ryan Chamberlain]

*grabs a drink and then mixes some up for everyone else*

Okay. There's this guy who I've been online friends with for 9 years. We met on a music board. He's from New Zealand. Well, him and I are close. Very close. We spend hours talking to each other. It's always been that way.

Thing is. Around 3 years ago I developed a massive crush on him. It was bound to happen. Him and I share the same viewpoints for the most part on almost everything. He's always been there for me and I've always been there for him. And, he's got a very good heart. Such a sweet man. He is very unlucky in love. He's been through hell and back. And, I just don't understand why. I really don't think of him as a wounded bird or anything. I like him for who he is. I don't wanna save him. But, I just want to be with him.

He's basically given up all hope for someone though. And, I've tried to hint to him that I would really love to meet him in person and start a relationship. He seems to like me too. But, I think the idea that he could get hurt again bothers him.

Still. After all these years. I really do think he's the one that I'm looking for.

I would love to just flat out tell him I love him. But, I really cannot [!@#$%^&*] up our friendship that way. So no to that. But, any ideas how to woo him guys?

Oh, and he's also a fox. He's basically the whole package. But, he keeps attracted the wrong girls. Crazy.

[Nate4]

Hmm. This is a very difficult thing. I get why you don't want to tell him, though. Honestly, I would make him say it. Idk how you could push him to do that though.