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It's Valentine's Day....and I'm alone!


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My heart goes out to all you who are alone. I don't like Valentine's either. When I was married, my wife didn't like it either and we usually didn't celebrate it.

This is the first year in like 20 years that I am actually doing something on Valentines. And it happens to be 2 dates.

At lunch I am going out with a nice young lady who is a client of mine. She is pretty cute. She shocked me when she asked me. After lunch we are doing the strangest of things - we are going to the gym to work out. Kind of a strange Valentine's Day. Funny the workout thing because today she brought me a box of Chocolate candy - chocolate liquers. I've never had them but I like the kahlua ones and the amaretto ones a lot.

Then tomorrow night I have a home date with the guy I have been seeing some. It is not really a date I guess because we are not going out. We are ordering pizza and watching movies at my house. He made me feel like a queen today (something I am not sure I like LOL) - he sent me a dozen roses and a box of chocolate covered cherries. That is a little much for me. This is the first guy I have ever what you would say dated. There is no relationship or anything so the gifts really surprised the hell out of me. Maybe I am putting more into it than I should but it did make me feel like a lady - not sure how I feel about that. LOL I guess there is nothing wrong with it.

Anyway I sent all of you hugs for Valentine's. My wishes to all of you to have a good day.

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LoL, I think some of you have it all wrong. It shouldn't be about wanting to be with someone, but celebrating love and being with your loved ones. I think family and friends is what matters the most. Guys and gals will come and go over the years but it is your family and true friends that stick by you, no matter what. While its nice to be with someone, I would rather be loved by my family and friends than to be with someone just to say "I have someone for V-day" Been there done that big waste of a year and a half of my life!

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To me Valentine's Day means this:

Being with family and friends that you love....sharing your heart with them, telling them that you care and love them

Yes, it's about being romantic with a significant other, but sometimes I think we all forget that Valentine's Day is more than being with a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse....It's about being with someone you truly love and care for :wub:

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Well, see, that's my point. Why should there be one day to focus that sort of thing on? To me, and maybe it's because I stopped believing in many Christian values a long time ago, VDay is nothing short of a moneymaker for Hallmark and candymakers across the globe. I tihnk too many people lose sight of loving people and spending time with them (whether that love is familial, platonic, or romantic) every day, whenever they can. I see no point in devoting an entire day to it. It's the whole set up. It's hard to look past the commercialism. I love you all every day. I love all my friends every day. I love my family every day. Okay, there are moments where I'm frustrated with someone. Who isn't? Point is, yeah, VDay is a nice reminder of that, but what really makes it different than any other holiday that's about that kind of connection? I don't know. It's just lost on me. And I hate pink, lol.

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Sorry Actor. I don't know your first name.

I have a BF, but I don't <3 him though I've been seeing him for years.

I'm actually happier when I'm NOT with him.

The guys I work with make me happier than my BF.

There's married people out there too who wish they were single cuz they're not HAPPILY married.

Sometimes being by yourself is better.

My friend Brad is an athlete and a coach so I look up to him with a lot of respect.

He's awesome, and he rules. This is what he told me last month:

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"Sometimes life can drag you down. Some days you feel like just giving up. Things don't go your way. Maybe your back hurts and it keeps you from going to the gym as often as you'd like. Maybe someone close to you passes away. Maybe you are in a car accident that you really can't afford. Life is full of suprises. As much as I worry the things that usually get me are things that may never have crossed my tiny little worried mind. Then on some idle weekend I'm sitting there just watching TV and its really late at night and it hits me. Life is beautiful. I'm right where I need to be. I'm right where I'm supposed to be. Single is what I'm used too. It's my comfort zone. It's what I do. I was watching Scrubs a lot lately. Mostly because I can't really do much else at the moment. I love this show. It always makes me laugh and tonight the episode was a little bit about The Wizard of Oz and it made me think. You know how the story ends. Turns out the Tin Man had a heart all along. The scarecrow had the brains and the lion had courage. It's a simple concept. We spend so much of our own lives searching for things that are within ourselves all along. I guess in my life I was searching for wholeness and I realized that I am whole. I like who I am. There's no reason for me to feel as though I need someone else to be happy because I am independently happy. I know that whatever challenges I have yet to face, I shall overcome. I have faith in God that He will guide me to the one I am meant to be with and every heart ache that I may have suffered before her will be worth it. Our love will be a light upon this world. A guiding force that will not only be an example to our children but to our children's children. I have no doubt in my mind that I will find this kind of passion and love because in my heart I know I am worthy. It simply feels good to be able to raise my head and say I'm not afraid anymore. I'm not worried..."

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Happy Valentine's Day Brad. I <3 you. You're my rock.

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