I got home tonight and got a call from the guy I've been dating. He told me that he got a call from SC Video (for those of you that don't know it, SC is a gay porn studio). He told me that they want him to do a video and he informed me that he is doing it regardless of how I feel, but that he would still date me if I wanted to stay with him.

Naturally, I told him my views and that I don't want to date a porn star knowing that he's sleeping with other people on camera for the world to see. He told me that it didn't make a difference how I felt.

Our conversation ended with him saying he had to go and abruptly hanging up.

I'm really really depressed. I really liked this guy.

Did I do the right thing?

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Edit: Name of adult company was removed

Edited April 27, 200619 yr by Ryan Chandler

Wow, um....Shawn. I'm talking to you about this now but I'll say something on here too. I think that you have the right to voice your objections, but honestly have to ask yourself if breaking up with him is worth it. If it's only going to be him, then I wouldn't make a big deal, but if it's him and others, then that could be a problem.

I think you did the right thing. It's your opinion.

Personally, I wouldn't have a problem if I were seeing someone who got into bigtime porn (which I believe SC is in regards to net porn). Hell, if I had the body and the opportunity, I'd do it. Not like I haven't been naked on stage before (or had sex in front of an audience, but that's another story). However, that said, if you don't feel comfortable with it, then by no means should you have to deal with it. But, clearly, this is something that he feels he needs to do (for his own personal ego or whatever reason).

That said, let me know when his video comes out. I wanna see.

That said, let me know when his video comes out. I wanna see.

Lol, figures you would.

Its just hard to deal with. I'll definitely have to think about it.

I mean, watching porn is one thing because I don't feel any emotional connection to anyone enacting those scenes. But him doing it, I dunno.

Wait....SC video...................as in..........SEAN CODY!?!?!?!?!

Wait....SC video...................as in..........SEAN CODY!?!?!?!?!

Yup.

Oh

MY

GODDDDDD!!!!

Well, I love that site, but I do feel awful for your situation. But, yeah, you did the right thing. Clearly, he did had no regard for your feelings!

The fact is, he didn't care about your opinion. He flat out said he was doing it regardless of what you thought, without even allowing so much as a conversation to talk it through. He wasn't even nice about it. He just said, "I'm doing it, regardless. If you don't like it, ciao." That's shitty, and he sounds like an [!@#$%^&*]. You don't deserve to be treated that way, so I say move on. I know, easier said than done when you really like somebody...

The fact is, he didn't care about your opinion. He flat out said he was doing it regardless of what you thought, without even allowing so much as a conversation to talk it through. He wasn't even nice about it. He just said, "I'm doing it, regardless. If you don't like it, ciao." That's shitty, and he sounds like an [!@#$%^&*]. You don't deserve to be treated that way, so I say move on. I know, easier said than done when you really like somebody...

You're right, especially the last part. It sucks that you cant choose who you like and don't like. Its all up to the heart.

You're right, especially the last part. It sucks that you cant choose who you like and don't like. Its all up to the heart.

God, isn't that the *BLEEP*ing truth.

Word. :-\.

Also, I mean who HONESTLY would do porn? I know SC is amateur porn or whatever, but it's pretty much the most popular out there. He'll be one Limewire in like two days. You'd be surprised how many people watch and see these things and how quickly it can get around. I always wondered HOW people go on with their lives when do porn....as in people who don't make careers out of it, but like dabble. Haha. They still have to carry on their normal jobs and face their family and friends. I dunno.

Its funny that a lot of people do it. Especially actors who have it come back to bite them in the ass years later after they've made it (ie Simon Rex, Sly Stallone) Even in Soapdom, we have B&B's Lesli Kay who I have seen with my own eyes in a soft core porn movie on Cinemax after dark, as well as Krista Allen (ex-Billie, Days) in Emmanuelle in Space.

I am sorry about your situation Shawn, IMO if he didnt even want to talk about then he isnt worth your time. I know it isnt easy, but he seems like he is just all about himself, and only himself and seems to think the hell with your feelings so I would stay away from him.

I dont look good enough to do sean cody, but I have been offered to do a few others and the main reason I won't do it is having someone that knows me see me getting it on. I just cant deal with thinking about that constantly, so at least for now I won't do any of those sites.

I am sorry about your situation Shawn, IMO if he didnt even want to talk about then he isnt worth your time. I know it isnt easy, but he seems like he is just all about himself, and only himself and seems to think the hell with your feelings so I would stay away from him.

I dont look good enough to do sean cody, but I have been offered to do a few others and the main reason I won't do it is having someone that knows me see me getting it on. I just cant deal with thinking about that constantly, so at least for now I won't do any of those sites.

Thanks Kirk. I actually have been offered a three year contract by a major studio in the past year but frankly, like you, I fear that even if it appealed to me, all of my friends would end up seeing it and passing it around like a note in third grade math class. Definitely not worth it.