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https://www.fanfiction.net/s/5023417/1/The-Courtship-Of-Emma-s-Mother
Back in the day when GL was still on the air & then when it was canceled & then as we approached the birth of Venice the Series, I had a wonderful online friend whose nickname or handle was DAX, also DAXilla, real name Patricia Givens. She was an amazing author of WLW fan fiction. She was also a very very good friend & it was her avid hobby to write fan fiction. At the age of only 44 DAX died. That was Feb. 9, 2014. You are missed. Rip. @CrySabatino

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Today I saw something that made me go back in time. Years ago I was defending a colleague of mine... defending her from...  another colleague - a bully woman who every chance she had tried to demean her and humiliate her. We had situations in bars when that girl would just start crying from all the jokes she heard about herself... and I would intervene and tell that other one to stop it and that she is actually the one that is looking awful in the situation.

I went through hell and back (dealing with a drunk bully narcissist is hell) to defend her time and time again, because she seemed very naive and not able to stand up for herself. But even then I sensed a strange vibe... that she continued putting herself in situations where she would meet or talk with that other woman. It seemed strange that they always were in some sort of confrontation and always the same dynamic - one being a bitch, the other one silently taking the emotional abuse.

Fast forward nearly 10 years later and that woman I defended years ago... is not in touch with me... but she is still around that bully that I'm sure continues humiliating and demeaning her. She even comments on her facebook posts and pictures and cheers her on like a dog. I know their dynamic, so I'm sure that nothing has changed. I also know the bully woman's M.O and I bet she is even worse now.

Lesson learned - not everyone who seems like they need defending or help... actually wants it or appreciates it. There are people who are perpetual victims and they like putting themselves in these situations. With the passage of time, they not only forget the good you've done for them and how you had their back, but they prefer the bully over you any day, any time.

 

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