I hate when people mock / joke around straight men with talking about them like they are going to be kissing or hooking up... or joking that they've already done it... even if it's just made to sound like some innocent joke. I feel it's borderline homophobic... And... like to be gay is something a straight man can just laugh about... like we are lower than them, but they are acting like they don't mind... So I should be okay with it? And I've seen even people who claim to be very tolerant/supporting gay people... act like this... when in big groups/drunk. I really don't want to hear someone encourage or talk about another straight man kissing another straight man like it's some kind of a joke. THIS IS MY LIFE. IT's not a joke to me. I don't want to see your f-cking face smiling and laughing when it's quite clear these men are NOT gay and they are just mocking gay-relationships, without even realizing it... I get triggered as [!@#$%^&*].
I don't like it. Maybe it's just me... but that's IT.
I also don't like straight women who refer to me... with MY GAY best friend Maxim. YEY! YEY! YEY! Not-yey! B-tch, stop referring to me BY MY sexuality and tagging me with it in front of people who I DON'T EVEN KNOW. This has happened so many times... I can't count. I don't need people to see me like I'm some kind of an accessory to a straight woman... This is like if I was introducing her... to someone and saying - This is my straight best friend Elena... for example. Absurd. I'm not a bag... a pair of sunglasses... or even A DOG. I'm a f-cking human being. It's not cute. It doesn't make me feel included. NOT AT ALL.
Again... maybe some people don't mind. I get horribly irritated.
And I remember this one time... when a guy... with his girlfriend in the same room!!!... at a home party... asked me if I would like him to kiss me... Because he had never kissed a man... he wanted to see how he would feel (he knew I was gay from the conversation before that) and he was sure his girlfriend would just laugh. What I responded - I told him, first - I don't kiss drunk men I've met 30 minutes ago... and second... you are not my type, so I'm sorry, but... NO. And also... just because I'm gay, that doesn't mean... every man that wants to kiss me... can kiss me. No, no, no, mister. Go and try your experiments with someone else. He acted like I stole his ice cream. He was sooo sure I would do it... I saw that look in the eyes. Well. NO.