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HBO's Looking. A look back

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How many other people on here watched Looking? I was a big fan, but I remember the huge backlash against the show, particularly from the gay community. A friend of mine has written an article that I think is worth reading for those who liked, or didn't like, the show, which now seems like, despite Heated Rivalry, something that would never be greenlit again. https://filmint.nu/the-beauty-of-looking-andrew-haighs-queer-television-aesthetic-david-greven/?fbclid=IwY2xjawSR9Z1leHRuA2FlbQIxMQBicmlkETFxZlFQSmtqdWVpd0xVWlNwc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHsGGiqBdXEQJzzBi2jeQvCQvqaBirC8A7Jc3I7xzWYgydl-cDl4phl_T8xXt_aem_WHrvLMqUe1gZ1IYO8OznrQ

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Excellent show: the acting, writing and especially the directing were all exceptional. "Looking for the Future" is an all-time great episode of TV. Unfortunately, I think there was more apathy than hate for Looking. The show got vindication from whatever hate was levied against it though when people got their wish with the L Word and QAF reboots. Those shows were much more despised because they tried to be all things to all people.

Patrick/Richie/Kevin was such a realistic 30ish triangle because of how unsoapy it was. You could buy Patrick's attraction to both men, and follow his reasoning to why he had problems committing to them both. There were only a few scenes where Richie & Kevin interacted (why would they?) and I appreciate that the show didn't write ridiculous plots every week to force confrontation.

I do feel that the creators took too much of the Agustine hate to heart and defanged him too much in season 2. I did enjoy his story with Eddie though, even if I didn't fully buy his fast transformation. I though subverting expectations with Dom by having him date a 60 year old instead of a 20-something was clever..

As for the article...I'm trying to be diplomatic but there are parts where I question how closely he watched or understood the series. At I first wrote off the line where he stated "Agustín’s desire to add a third to their relationship" as just a clunky worded sentence. He wanted a threesome not a throuple.

Perhaps I'm being too harsh, but the line comparing Patrick to Carrie Bradshaw as being the central charterer in his friends' lives was a huge red flag. I don't think there was a single scene in season 1 where Dom or Agustine discussed Patrick when he wasn't onscreen. In season 2 Agustine gossiped with Eddie about Patrick's affair with Kevin, but that was to show their growing intimacy with each other, not a "where's Poochie?" moment. There's no question that Patrick was the main character, but Dom & Agustine had fully formed lives and their own desires.

In the end, I think she show was hurt by being in the rotation with Veep, Silicon Valley & Girls. Those 3 were probably HBO's 3 buzziest half-hours post SATC, but their satirical tones were a bad match with Looking. If season 2 was paired with Getting On or Togetherness, it might have got another season or 2 because of lowered expectations.

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On 6/7/2026 at 12:08 AM, EricMontreal22 said:

How many other people on here watched Looking? I was a big fan, but I remember the huge backlash against the show, particularly from the gay community. A friend of mine has written an article that I think is worth reading for those who liked, or didn't like, the show, which now seems like, despite Heated Rivalry, something that would never be greenlit again. https://filmint.nu/the-beauty-of-looking-andrew-haighs-queer-television-aesthetic-david-greven/?fbclid=IwY2xjawSR9Z1leHRuA2FlbQIxMQBicmlkETFxZlFQSmtqdWVpd0xVWlNwc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHsGGiqBdXEQJzzBi2jeQvCQvqaBirC8A7Jc3I7xzWYgydl-cDl4phl_T8xXt_aem_WHrvLMqUe1gZ1IYO8OznrQ

I still love it (annually binge it and update here from time to time under the thread pre-site reboot). I even did a blog post on the anniversary this year having to do with its legacy. I love that it is now getting the attention it deserved due to everyone on it going on to other shows and the younger generation stumbling onto it now. I live for LOOKING reactions on YT.

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I obviously watched it as it aired and really liked it. It was not without issues, but had a lot going for it. That being said, I do feel it needs to be rewatched so I see how I would feel about it now.

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3 hours ago, YRBB said:

That being said, I do feel it needs to be rewatched so I see how I would feel about it now.

You will be glad you did. ;) I always get something new from it after a rewatch. Especially as I've gotten to Dom's age. hehe.

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On 6/8/2026 at 2:41 PM, bongobong said:

As for the article...I'm trying to be diplomatic but there are parts where I question how closely he watched or understood the series. At I first wrote off the line where he stated "Agustín’s desire to add a third to their relationship" as just a clunky worded sentence. He wanted a threesome not a throuple.

Perhaps I'm being too harsh, but the line comparing Patrick to Carrie Bradshaw as being the central charterer in his friends' lives was a huge red flag. I don't think there was a single scene in season 1 where Dom or Agustine discussed Patrick when he wasn't onscreen. In season 2 Agustine gossiped with Eddie about Patrick's affair with Kevin, but that was to show their growing intimacy with each other, not a "where's Poochie?" moment. There's no question that Patrick was the main character, but Dom & Agustine had fully formed lives and their own desires.

In the end, I think she show was hurt by being in the rotation with Veep, Silicon Valley & Girls. Those 3 were probably HBO's 3 buzziest half-hours post SATC, but their satirical tones were a bad match with Looking. If season 2 was paired with Getting On or Togetherness, it might have got another season or 2 because of lowered expectations.

Yeah David, the author of the article, is a personal friend (I've known his husband since I was a kid) and I think is a great writer (his entire book about Maurice--novel and film is extremely insightful as are his books on Hitchcock and masculinity, etc.) So I'll defend him, but I do think this was cranked out pretty quickly and there are some awkwardly worded bits (and I agree with you on the one you mention.)

I actually do think when the show aired--maybe it met with indifference from most fans (although I was surprised how much my sister was a fan--something I didn't even know until it came out a year later when we were talking about tv shows.) However, in the gay bloggersphere it DID get a lot of hate. People were hate watching and picking on every little aspect. Why is a show set in San Francisco so white was a big one (and yes, there's some truth there.) Others were mad that it wasn't addressing gay politics. Wondering how Groff's character could be so naive about gay issues (and he was, but I still bought that that could be true of his character,) and just picking on every little subject.

I remember recently one of those blogger/critics actually said he returned to the show and he realized how unfair he was about it... Why SHOULD it address every hot gay political issue of the moment, etc? I think the issue was that when it ran it was the ONLY American TV show focused on gay men, and so people who watched it and felt it didn't reflect their reality got mad... If that makes sense--it had the burden of somehow, since there were no other gay shows, people thinking it should address everything.

As you say, we've seen how often that doesn't work... The QAF reboot was a disaster (while the US original QAF version was often an entertaining soap opera, I already thought it made a mistake when "Cow/Lip" the US creators said they wanted it to represent different aspects of the gay AND lesbian scene because there's no way it could do that--and I don't remember one major character being a person of colour--and one reason the RTD UK Queer as Folk worked was he was simply writing about three individuals, not the entire gay scene...) But that reboot... And one thing that irked me, and I know I should NOT bring this up, was the fact that to be truly diverse, they didn't have ONE cis gender, able bodied white gay guy except for a kinda villain of the piece, which was odd especially considering its showrunner is an able bodied, cis gendered white guy...

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