I need to vent!(Family Drama)

[WillenFan21]

So, my cousin Matthew got a girl that I graduated with pregnant 3 years ago. They had a little boy his name is Landyn. Matthew has always been a part of his life but him in the BabyMama are not together and really havn't been since his birth. The BabyMama has a current a boyfriend that she dated in High School who graduated in 02 a year ahead of us. The two hadn't been together in forever. He had a job out in Wyoming and is still out there. Over this summer the two "found their way" back to each other and are together. She has only been seeing him for about 3/4 months tops. Well they ran into a problem they want to be together but he lives out in Wyoming and she is living here in PA. She had a place of her own, had a job and everything and has now decided that she was up and leave and take Landyn with her. My cousin Matt and his family got a lawyer, they had a hearing, and babymama showed up without a lawyer and the judge ruled that she was not to leave with the boy that the boy stays here.

Well on Saturday evening I was reading Matts' sister away message on AIM and it said she was writing a blog. I went to her myspace a few hours later and saw the blog was posted. I was unsure of what was going but had a feeling she was upset with the whole thing. I mean she loves her nephew and she doesn't want him leaving. I never asked her that night what was wrong becuase I felt it was the wrong time. Especially since she said in her away message she was outside hoping she was not having a nervous break down. Tonight I was talking to her(she is pregnant and she put up a sonogram of the baby so I was talking to her about that) and then I went to her MS again to look at the picture and notice she had a second blog out. I was curious and she seemed in a better state tonight so I took the oppurtunity to ask her if she was upset the other night because of what is going on with Landyn. She told me that yeah thats mostly what it is. She said they had another hearing on Friday and that babymama was givin a second chance in court to say why she wanted to go(She now has lawyer btw) to Wyoming. The judge didn't make a ruling right there in court but is going to write up a letter to the lawyers with his ruling. So I hope for their sake the judge rules on their side again.

/end of rant

[DevotedToAMC]

Well I sincerely hope for the best for your cousin. This deifnitely sounds like a complicated situation and of course she needs to realize that fathers do have rights, especially your cousin who sounds like a good father (I wish I had one of those). Something tells me the judge will prevent the mom from up and leaving to Wyoming to be with someone who has no legal connection to this child. If I were the judge, I would say both parents have joint custody and she is to stay in Pennsylvania and not take him out of state bounds...that has been done before where a court orders someone to not move across state lines but if they do then there are repercussions. Keep us updated on this. I am curious to know what the judge's final ruling will be. The unfortunate side effect to family law is judges make the most mistakes in that area...but it is also hard to have to determine who should have custody of a child if both are reasonable parents (in my opinion, they tend to always side with the mother since it is a stereotype for mothers to nurture their children and the father is the breadwinner...so the mother they see as the one staying home to raise the child and that just sets this idea that a mom should always have custody. There are some irresponsible mothers out there who should not have a child in the first place but that is not for me to decide.)

What I am also hoping for is that the child's parents are civil to each other and are managing to raise the child in a loving environment with as big a family and friends around them. But in the end, she should not move to Wyoming and rather if the boyfriend wants to be with her, he can plan to move to Pennsylvania....if I were him, I would save my money to relocate since it looks like the judge will rule in your cousin's favor.

Good luck!