She unfortunately suffers from brutal personality disorder called narcissistic personality disorder. I've tried having that in mind and forgiving her time after time, but lately her toxicity has been so grand, I've cut her from my life completely. Yes, some night I cry missing her, but some days I cry happy tears that craziness is away from me.
And about the aunts - don't even start me on that topic. I have an aunt that is into black magic rituals and she pays some fake-telephone-witches to make spells against her enemies. Of course nothing works, but just knowing she does these types of crazy [!@#$%^&*] is enough from me to never have contact.